Wednesday, July 13, 2005

The Big D

So, had C/Stella round for tea tonight (no sign of stella thankfully) to discuss parenting agreement and some other stuff. We didn't disagree on too much, not that I thought we would, we have learnt to trust each other to do whats right and I think we both really appreciate the fact that we can discuss stuff in an adult manner and don't start using the kids as weapons.
She also asked if she could meet Tanya which I think will be OK, T&I seem more settled and I believe we may be going somewhere so now is probably appropriate.

The biggest bombshell I dropped (which turned out not to be a bombshell at all) was that I wanted a divorce. She had been thinking along the same lines which rather took the wind out of my sails and stole my thunder (and any other meteorological metaphors you care to mention!). I never expected her to cling to my ankle and beg for me back, I just felt the need to draw another line under that part of my life in order to move on. I don't think it will alter much at all, and I am not naive enough to think I will be ecstatic when the paperwork comes through, of course I will feel like a failure but a stronger failure.

Also, she is finally back on line in her new house and Stella's blog has disappeared into the ether which is a blessing.

Onwards and Upwards!


Anonymous Anonymous said...

so, is their a role for a best man?


9:35 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well C, sounds like you are back on track.......however at least you had some ammo for S re: the big D..It was coming and you seemed to have met it full on,, New confidence helped by having T in your corner even though she wasn't involved as such.
You suggested that you need friends around you as your family are distant in many ways.... remember those who are in a similar position to may be stronger now to give a little more to others rather than just recieve?
Keep focused ..upwards and onwards like you say....and remind others to do that too.........

12:25 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can vouch for Charles being a very good giver as well as a receiver. Tanya

8:51 am  
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10:52 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you go for it then!

10:59 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So C how's tricks? have you yet endured the meeting between old love and new? I mean T & C of course....
Just wondered if it went well..?
You have not 'blogged' for a while now so that is a big step, as you are obviously dealing with situations as they arise....I hope so, and that your abscence is not due to a 'crash' ....emotionally. I mean, as you know that will comein time........

I hope that T enjoys your boys well enough to support you through this, I am sure she will....meantime have fun with all aspects of what is going on in your life and keep looking forward...
You said that you wern't close to your family....?
A suggestion is that if you visit them (don't wait for them to visit you) a few choice and valuable hours with them, will lift you immensley......
You only have 'one' family initially..and all those pleasures that you gain from them will be passed onto the boys as 'their' family.
Keep up the are winning!

10:36 pm  

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